When You Like Nothing, Maybe You Don’t Like Yourself

Nobody experiences or stays in a situation of discomfort for pleasure. Not even those we call “masochists.” Deep down, we all want to be at peace and be as happy as we can. But we do not always find the way to achieve it. In fact, that path becomes much more complex when you don’t like yourself.

Most of us are not born and raised in ideal conditions. And there are many who have had to face very adverse circumstances from an early age. One of the most recurrent is having grown up in a hostile environment, where there was neither recognition nor appreciation.

When you don’t like yourself, you always have to dive into that distant past . There are the reasons why you have learned to evaluate yourself negatively. So that you do not manage to give value to your achievements, or meaning to your virtues. There is where that poisoned seed of wanting to be another, to live another life or, in some way, escape from what you are is born. The good news is that it is never too late to repair those damages and achieve reconciliation with your being.

This is how the idea that you don’t like yourself manifests itself

The problem when you don’t like yourself is that you end up not liking yourself at all. In reality, the world always ends up becoming a projection of what we carry inside. Now, it is not the world that has pleasant or unpleasant aspects, but we are the ones who see it in one way or another.

If you don’t like yourself, everything that has to do with you ends up being unpleasant or of little value to you. The usual thing is that you are encouraged and discouraged with great ease. You always end up finding in each reality some aspect that leads you to see it with disappointment.

You start a lot of things and you don’t finish any of them because your enthusiasm runs out. You always find a way to make something look negative. Very big, very small, very far, very close … Any aspect that is neutral in principle , you turn it into something negative or worthless. And you don’t realize it. You just feel bad and project it, without this being deliberate. You actually have an open wound and you are suffering.

What happens to your life when you like nothing

Disagreement is not a fact, but a point of view. The world and reality are what they are. Every human being gives meaning to his universe. Our perspective of reality speaks much more about ourselves, than about how things are themselves.

When you don’t like yourself, you can’t give positive meanings to what you see, what you hear, what you perceive, what comes into your life …

One of the most worrying aspects of all this is that without realizing it, this becomes a habit for you. Your mind begins to operate automatically. It works like a bloodhound always looking for the worst angle of all. As you always find it, this fuels your idea that the world and reality are deplorable.

Without realizing it, you have chosen that point of view to approach reality. But you haven’t done it for fun. It is simply a way to deal with the traces of a rejection that managed to hurt you to the core. Your dislike of everything around you is simply a way of dealing with the pain of knowing that you don’t like yourself.

What to do and what not to do

What you are, what you feel and what you think has probably been ignored, disqualified or simply rejected  during your childhood, in your home or in your immediate environment. And surely it was also a repetitive fact.

As a child you couldn’t understand what was happening. You just grew up with the idea that you were “bad” in whole or in part. Those who acted this way with you almost certainly didn’t like themselves either. They projected their nonconformity on you. They were in a similar position to where you are now. They saw the bad in their judgment and ignored the good. It is a chain that becomes endless until someone decides to limit it.

Ideally, you should be the one to mark that “up to here.” That you end that story of unhappiness, dissatisfaction and bias. Of course, we all have objectionable aspects. However, in essence we have a value that nothing and no one can question. We are neither more nor less than anyone. We have the right to make mistakes and also to be happy. It is time to build a new perspective.