When Nobody Sees Me My Soul Is Pleased
When nobody sees me my soul is pleased. I can be like the child who plays, who laughs about nothing or who cries about everything when he needs it and the adult gaze does not judge him. When I am alone I delight in simple pleasures, in doing nothing and dreaming everything. Walking around without clothes or immersing myself in a foam bathtub and disinfecting my sorrows and worries.
Few scenarios are as needy as those in which we live in the purest intimacy, sometimes shameless, sometimes pleasant, but above all, vital. Because when nobody sees us, the soul and the mind relax and we drop “many skins” while we delight in such elementary acts as having a cup of coffee, reading a magazine, getting dressed or leaving our gaze suspended in the warm calm of the evening.
People spend a large part of the day subject to infinite regulatory rules of behavior. Perhaps, for this reason, we find those private spaces so cathartic where nothing is expected of us, where we are not subject to the judgment of looks or to conventions on how to act, dress or how to react to certain situations.
It is a subject as complex as it is interesting that we invite you to discover with us.
When nobody sees us and we can “undress”
We are all “embedded” by force in a social universe where we have to adapt physically and psychologically. We spend much of our life cycle orbiting certain environments in which something is always demanded of us: to be good children, good students, effective workers, perfect fathers and mothers, and ideal friends.
Now, although it is clear that most of us strive every day to achieve each of these aspirations, our own internal and external pressure is creating “little psychological calluses” in us. They are marks by the force exerted, by the wear and even why not say it, the fatigue.
Striving for “excellence” in our lives is not bad at all. Nor do we deny ourselves that pleasant happiness that loving and being loved offers us, having moments of magical complicity with our friends, but we all, absolutely all, yearn for our own private shelters where we cannot be seen and, finally, undress to relieve those areas. of “psychological and emotional pressure”.
According to a study carried out by neurologist Mark Leary, from the University of North Carolina (United States), one of the most common pressures that people suffer are the so-called “meta-perceptions”, that is, the perceptions that we ourselves have about how others see us.
For many it is a really annoying type of social anxiety where moments of intimacy make the most sense here, because the threatening feeling of being “constantly judged” is finally extinguished. For others, on the other hand, this aspect is hardly a problem. Because they filter all the signals they receive through a good self-concept and firm self-esteem.
They do not need to take refuge, but still, they also enjoy their moments alone. There where not to be seen.
Any act that allows us to remove that “dead skin” formed by the rumor of negative thought, stress or daily worries, and that in turn invites us to connect with the present moment and with our own conscience, is a way of investing in happiness.
Because to flow is to let yourself be carried away by the appeased purr of life, without haste or pressure but without ever neglecting that wonderful adventure because you are always yourself. The moments of loneliness, those in which nobody sees us, are moments of needed complicity where we can rest and allow our soul to delight. Put it into practice every day.
