What You Deny Submits You, What You Accept Transforms You

The most significant changes begin to occur when we accept things as they are ; both the acceptance of what is given to us by life, and the acceptance of ourselves.

In our changing lives there are many situations in which we have no choice but to accept things as they are given to us, what happens when we refuse to accept things as they are?

When we resist changes, to what is no longer part of our control, that we cannot do anything to avoid it because it is something that has already happened or is happening. Denying it only causes us to fall into suffering.

The clearest circumstances where acceptance plays a fundamental role are death, love and lack of love.

How to deny death, how to deny a crush, how to deny a lack of love? – Well, yes, we insist on denying these realities that we can do nothing if they occur.

It is not about good or bad situations, it is about realities that are typical of the human being, they are part of our lives; produce joy or sadness, the emotion and its intensity indicates to us how significant that experience is for us.

“If you don’t have the strength to impose your own conditions on life, you must accept the ones it offers you.”

-S. Eliot-

Need to understand

Our tendency towards what is beyond our control is to try to give you an answer, to get an explanation that will relieve us. We need to understand everything that happens in our lives.

We forget that everything we try to understand is going to be the result of our interpretations and experience, of explanations to which we want to give a meaning to finally convince ourselves and make us believe that this is our reality.

We lose ourselves in reason, in words, when all truth, all reality is within us; it is in what we feel, it is in the emotion that we experience. Going towards that feeling that our own body is in charge of showing us is accepting the reality of what happens to us.

The tendency to go towards reasoning to explain certain questions such as those related to love; they are impediments and barriers that we put on ourselves in order not to accept reality.

What happens when we do not accept what happens to us?

When we bury those feelings that we do not want to attend to, because we do not remain mired in sadness, or fear that they will catch us and do us too much harm; a damage that we believe we are not capable of sustaining and facing; we are denying our experience, our existence.

We are burying our essence, we leave stuck many of the emotions that need to be released, need to be lived and experienced.

When we do this we are forgetting an essential part of our humanity, not accepting our vulnerabilities, believing that we are above them.

The body is responsible for giving us the relevant signals in the form of an alert so that at some point we decide to remove everything that we have stagnant (rage, sadness, anger, will go, etc.), by not doing so our energy in turn remains stagnant and as a result, illness and disconnection with ourselves and our happiness appear.

Learning to accept

Personal development and learning occurs when we are willing to accept our feelings and emotions as they appear, without passing them through the filter of reason in a way that modifies, represses and turns them off.

We can take into account that reason will need to offer an explanation for what is happening, but by staying there we are diverting attention to what we experience.

The real learning happens when we are willing to accept, leaving us feeling each of the emotions that arise with each of the circumstances that we go through .

This is how we transform ourselves by following the flow of life. Since everything that we deny and are not willing to accept will subject us to disengagement with ourselves, with all that this implies.

When we accept unavoidable events in our lives we can feel sadness with great intensity, but feeling it is precisely what frees us from it, to continue moving forward and give rise to new emotions, experiences and experiences.

The moment we begin to accept what happens to us, we begin to accept ourselves. We are thus prepared to forgive and forgive ourselves, to continue to flow towards new experiences, letting the energy flow, letting us feel alive.

“Reason has taught me nothing. Everything that I know has been given to me by my heart ”.

-Leon Tolstoi-