We Are Not Distant, We Are Different

I was afraid that this would happen from the day I met you, especially because starting to give you a part of who I am also meant stripping my heart and leaving it accessible from all sides. Now the time has come to accept it: we are not distant, we are different and, together, we have to learn to separate ourselves.

The truth is that the love that feels most real is also the one that has been able to risk all its facets to a single card: that the union between two people is able to last in a common world created from individual interests and habits. .

You and I had risked everything we had earned to build ours: keeping your essence and mine, cultivating our spaces, offering us everything that could help us grow. And yet, we have grown up at different times and we have not been able to adapt to changes.

The relationship has grown cold and we’ve changed

The relationship we have is no longer what it was and, as much as we try not to believe in it, nothing can be done to save it. I know that we are fine, that deep down we love each other and wish each other the best, but we have grown cold and we are hurting ourselves without realizing it.

We have changed and now we are two different people who had many plans in common that are not going to take consistency : there will be gaps, different breaks and tears because we had put our hopes in making them come true.

However, you know it too: when there is no faith left in a dream, at the same time you lose all efforts on something that no longer leads to anything. That is why it can no longer be: despite the fact that it hurts to abandon the illusions that we had, we have not known how to live up to the circumstances that, now, no longer make sense.

The ‘comfort zone’

It may be that we find ourselves in this situation of no return because the trust that had united us keeps us in a comfort zone: after so long, the comfort of routine makes us fear what will happen when we make the decision to end it. our. 

We are trying to convince each other that we are fine that way, but we both know that we have put an insurmountable distance between us. We have to get out of our comfort zone and stop lying to ourselves. We are different from the people we knew at the beginning and those we are now do not fit: we have to accept it.

What remains is no longer love

We have been a couple full of complicities that have been treated with respect and love, but the only thing that remains between you and me is compassion, affection and nostalgia. The magic is gone without anyone being able to do anything to prevent it: sometimes it takes something more to maintain a relationship that is beyond our reach.

The incredible moments we spent together will remain in our memory and will remind us later that one day we could be happy sharing our lives. Really, when two people have loved each other so much, there are only gaps of mutual gratitude, because the only damage that they have been able to do comes from outside: we are forced to change and we cannot avoid it.

For all this I think the best thing is that we do not continue to think that we are distant and that such distance is temporary, because we both know that it is not true. Life sometimes forces us to make decisions like this that we could not have imagined and it is the best for us.