The Spiral Of Complaint

How much do you complain throughout the day? How much time do you spend on the complaint? Stop for a moment and think about it …

Each of us usually has a collection of complaints waiting to come out. We complained about work, about our partner, about that friend, about how they treated us in the last restaurant we went to… The list could be endless.

Complaining is becoming an addiction in society.

The complaint can be used at times, as a means of discharge or escape valve, the problem comes when we cling to it and make it essential in our lives. In this way, we focus our attention on the negative and turn it into a lifestyle.

If we think about it, the continuous spiral of complaints does not lead us anywhere, on the contrary it paralyzes us. The psychologist Joan Garriga affirms that “Complaining lowers people’s vitality”.

The complaint does not solve anything, unless we issue it just to vent, but this is effective when it is not repetitive in time, otherwise, it is inoperative, since it does not provide solutions. Or do you think that because you complain a lot, the situations will seem different? Or that everything will be solved by magic?

Complaining avoids responsibility

Sometimes the complaint also indicates a lack of responsibility towards people and situations, or recreation in the position of victims.

Surely around you you identify someone who complains about his situation, but does nothing to solve it, on the contrary, he only knows how to talk about it, focusing on the negative, without looking for solutions or alternatives. It has settled down.

It must be borne in mind that when we complain, we accuse others or the circumstances of our unhappiness, we are exempt from all responsibility, as if our well-being depended on the outside. We become victims of our reality.

In fact, when someone has established continuous complaint as a habit, it is because behind it, surely some benefit is hidden, so it is convenient to observe what is behind that complaint, the hidden need.

Stop complaining and act

When we complain, we state that things have not turned out as we thought or that the other has not acted as we wanted, requesting that they be resolved. But the complaint is not resolved from the outside, but from oneself, within us.

There is no use complaining, if later you do not start looking for solutions or alternatives. Even sometimes just stopping, observing and understanding what happened will be enough. It is our decision to direct our energy to live or to die little by little.

Currently, there is an initiative through the Internet, which proposes to stop complaining about everyday things. The authors of this movement, Blancpain and Pelgrims, express the importance of the benefits that are obtained if we stop complaining for a month. On the one hand, we will obtain a higher level of happiness and on the other, the acquisition of knowledge about how we communicate with our surroundings, they affirm.

And you, could you go a whole month without complaining? If we are able to discover our freedom within our slavery, we can also find our joy or our well-being, under the cover of victimization.