Letting Go Is Accepting Your Story, But Not Your Destiny
There are people who appear in our life as if by magic. They are wonderful coincidences of fleeting happiness, expired. They are loves that do not last, and that you have to know how to let go, in order to live in balance …
Letting go is never easy. It requires courage and a full and sure conviction that detaching ourselves from that relationship, that friendship or that situation is something vital for our balance and happiness.
Knowing how to recognize the need to close a cycle is in itself an act of maturity. However, from the recognition of the act there is a very hard step full of sadness, and a personal grief to overcome.
However, we must also bear in mind that many people do not finish assuming and correctly facing the end of a cycle, of a stage.
Some people think that ending a relationship is the end point in their own life. After that goodbye and that separation, there is nothing more. Letting go is that act of fate that throws the curtain on your emotional life.
We must be careful with these kinds of defeatist thoughts and attitudes. After an end point comes a space, and with it, new paths and opportunities to be happy as we wish.
Today we want to invite you to reflect on it.
Keys to letting go with maturity and wisdom
At the beginning of the article we have talked to you about courage and conviction. Now, the act of letting go involves integrating many more dimensions, many more personal strategies that are worth knowing.
1. People are not your destiny, you are your own architect
It is possible that for a time we have believed that a certain person appeared in our lives because chance willed it that way, because that is how fate wove it with its invisible and subtle threads.
In love, you must keep your feet on the ground, your heart attentive, and the wings of your personal growth wide open. Affective relationships are not nourished by magic but by daily well-being, commitment and hope.
2. Letting go involves showing your own needs
Don’t be afraid to say out loud that you have NEEDS too. No one is selfish for demanding respect, for needing to be heard, loved or cared for.
Sometimes when things are not going well, instead of being aware of our emotional discomfort, we continue to cling to certain aspects:
- Fear: fear of what will happen if I do or say this. Fear of being alone, fear of being wrong, fear of changes …
- Often, we think that it is better to “wait a little longer”, because it is possible that things change, that the relationship improves, that suddenly they realize that I feel bad … However, time passes and nothing of that happens. Nothing changes.
Needs are part of our self-esteem, part of our personal growth and our well-being.
If you don’t perceive yourself as a whole and happy person, don’t further destroy your integrity and react. Close that stage … Let go.
3. People do not mark your end points, no one has the right to close your doors
It is often said that we will always keep in our hearts the memory of that perfect friendship that ended up being lost or that love that hurt us so much, and that since then, has changed us so much inside.
It’s possible. Now, none of those events of the past should mark end points in our day to day life.
Because someone failed you in the past, you are not going to refuse to make new friends. And because someone hurt you, you are not going to allow yourself to turn your heart to ice and throw it into the deep well of your despair.
Focus on your here and now. No one has the helm of your destiny, let alone the right to mark an end point in the book of your life. Letting go is marking a space to allow new things to come. Better things.
Never give up when you are forced to end a stage. The key is to accept that there are things that cannot be … and act.
Always pay attention to the interior of your heart, since that is where the truth of your feelings lives. They are the ones that you must attend to with maturity, with balance, wisdom … And a lot of courage.
