Over Time I Learned
Time is the master of life. And so it is expressed by some wise words from Jorge Luis Borges. Let’s read them calmly and then reflect on them :
“Over time I learned the subtle difference between holding someone’s hand and chaining a soul.
Over time I learned that love does not mean leaning on someone and that company does not mean security.
Over time … I began to understand that kisses are not contracts, nor are gifts promises.
Over time I learned that being with someone because they offer you a good future means that sooner or later you will want to go back to your past.
Over time … you realize that getting married just because “it’s urgent” is a clear warning that your marriage will be a failure.
Over time I understood that only someone who is capable of loving you with your defects, without trying to change you, can bring you all the happiness you want.
Over time you realize that if you are next to that person just to accompany your loneliness, you will inevitably end up not wanting to see them again.
Over time you realize that true friends are worth much more than any amount of money.
Over time I understood that true friends are counted on the fingers of the hand, and that whoever does not fight for them sooner or later will be surrounded only by false friends.
Over time I learned that words spoken in a moment of anger can continue to hurt the one you hurt, for a lifetime.
Over time I learned that anyone can excuse me, but forgiveness is only for great souls …
Over time I realized that if you have hurt a friend badly, most likely the friendship will never be the same again.
Over time you realize that even if you are happy with your friends, one day you will cry for those you let go.
Over time you realize that each experience lived with each person is unrepeatable.
Over time you realize that whoever humiliates or despises a human being will sooner or later suffer the same humiliations or scorn multiplied squared.
Over time I learned to build all your roads today, because tomorrow’s terrain is too uncertain to plan.
Over time I understood that rushing things or forcing them to happen will cause them to not be as you expected in the end.
Over time you realize that in reality the best thing was not the future, but the moment that you were living right at that moment.
Over time you will see that even if you are happy with those who are by your side, you will miss those who were with you yesterday and have now left.
Over time I learned to try to forgive or ask for forgiveness, say you love, say you miss, say you need, say you want to be a friend…. before a grave …, it no longer makes any sense …
But unfortunately … we only understand this with time. “
– Jorge Luis Borges –
The teachings that only the passage of time can give us
This is the school of life; it is the one that teaches you that it is not the dark that you fear, but what is in it, and that you are not afraid of heights but of falling … Living also helps you understand that it is not that you do not trust people around you, but you are afraid of being rejected.
That your fear is not of love, but of not being loved. And if you don’t want to let go, your problem is that you don’t accept that in reality that person has already left …
And all this is part of living, it is that wisdom that is not in books and that no one can teach us. It is that part that we must learn ourselves and that hurts; It hurts because you end up understanding it through blows and disappointments.
It is a pain that keeps you in suspense until it fades and it is then that you go further and climb a rung on your ladder. Because deep down you know that whoever resists accepting change sentences their inner death.
So love your place in the world and love life above all else ; be grateful for the sticks they give you because they will make you human; Be constant and fight with all your might against the disease of certainty, do not live only for the future and do not lose your sense of humor, whatever happens.
These are the teachings that you will never be able to forget because they are the ones that differentiate and define you … and that is that life doesn’t tell you anything, it teaches you everything ; and she’s such a good teacher that if you don’t learn the lesson, she’ll repeat it …
