I’m Jealous …

Who has not been jealous? Although some more than others, feeling jealous is part of our human essence. We are afraid that our love will be stolen, that our friends will leave us, that our brothers will capture the attention of our parents more than we do when we are children, of our lovers when we are adolescents.

With a partner or without a partner we can live all kinds of jealousy. Jealousy can arise from the ringing telephone, from a smile that we think we see, from a thought that comes to torment us, because that is what jealousy is, a torment that consumes us and consumes love, friendship, filial love, everything that he gets lost between us and that feeling.

We are not happy being jealous

We are not happy in jealousy and we fool ourselves into thinking that it is normal, that we do it because we love, and the poor objects of our jealousy insist on believing that it is because we love them too much. Jealousy is not a way of loving, it is a selfish way of living together.

Unless we assume we have a problem and must overcome it, whether we face why we feel jealous and convince ourselves of its worthlessness, we will always feel insecure.

. When we are jealous we suffer the feeling of loss that we assume, thinking that we are losing someone who is important to us.

Turning our gaze to our childhood can give us an answer to why we are so jealous today. Perhaps, between our parents this feeling was very present or, perhaps, we felt it for the first time when we had a little brother. Since then, they have accompanied us into adulthood, permeating all our relationships, be they friendship or love.

Being a jealous person hurts

It especially hurts us to feel that we cannot have everything we want and that we think of it as something we deserve or crave with particular intensity. This leads us to the negativity of conceiving hatred and resentment for which we think steals our affections and our loves, even though in most cases, jealousy is usually unfounded, and the object of our misgivings is not involved at all.

Impotence also floods us, we feel that we have failed, and that our jealousy is the punishment we deserve because, according to us, they do not love us enough or as much as we “think” they love us.

Jealousy is thus a cluster of confusions, which takes us away from the people who love us and whom we love, which rob us of the happiness we can feel because we insist on seeing ghosts where there are none, because we act like children instead of reflect and face the situation, perhaps that way we would see that as Freud said, on many occasions, we are just children.

Jealous, determined to be selfish with love, with affection, with friendship, with what we feel that belongs to us … And we would face the fact that feeling jealous is something that is very far from what it is to love …

Have you ever felt that this feeling predominated in your relationships? Have you entered a relationship already distrusting or assuming that the other person would end up betraying you? With this you have to be very careful. Since what we believe can happen, it can end up manifesting. All due to insecurity and our fears that make us attract people who will increase these feelings.