Those Times When Everything Comes When You Stop Looking

Some call them magical moments or “click”  moments . These are all those times when suddenly, what we dreamed, looked for or waited so eagerly happens suddenly, hugging us around the corner or appearing in our email tray … Just when we had stopped looking for our destination. offers his unexpected gift.

In an unpredictable world and chaotic and complex instants like a labyrinth with no way out, the “click” moments abound more than we think. There are those who link these facts to the very attractive science of “luck”, but in reality the true experts on the subject know that these unforeseen events, in which wishes suddenly become reality or we are touched with the wand of opportunities, they hide some science and a lot of psychology.

To give an example of this same fact we have a very interesting book. In Frans Johansson’s “The Medici Effect” we are told how sometimes being an expert in a field is not enough to be successful. In fact, dedicating all our effort, time and energy to a single goal does not guarantee 100% that we will achieve it. Sometimes you have to step away a bit, take on other perspectives and apply less linear thinking and more creative, relaxed, patient, and original thinking to reach a goal.

At the same time, we cannot forget something equally interesting: sometimes, the most unexpected actions are guided by our subconscious. Just when our conscious, rigid, sometimes obsessive and always analytical mind establishes a certain distance, it awakens that sixth sense that we believe it or not, it is almost never wrong.

We suggest you reflect on it.

Even if you stop searching your mind is still receptive

Andrea has a small business that is not doing well at all. He knows that his bakery is no longer profitable and that in a few months he will have to close it. She has been trying for several weeks to think about what she can do, but between the pressure, the anxiety and the sadness of closing that family business, she makes the tears instantly fall down her face. You feel exhausted. However, that same morning she woke up much more clear and calm when she said to herself that of  “that’s it, whatever has to happen and everything will be faced.”

He has taken a shower feeling a very pleasant calm and adequate peace of mind. While showering, he received a notification on his mobile from one of his social networks. Picking up the phone, Andrea suddenly had an idea:

This is a simple example of how our mind works when we stop pressing it, and how its receptivity intensifies when we remove the forest of worries and the thick of fears from it. However, in this classic of looking for the “click moment” another equally interesting dimension has been applied to which it is worth stopping: intersectional thinking.

Intersectional thinking

People have a very common habit: that of trying to predict everything that can happen if we do or do not do certain things. This often forces us to create authentic “Excel documents” in our minds where we can display columns, analyze data, correlate variables and make exhaustive forecasts, sometimes somewhat fatalistic.

Instead of making use of that linear and analytical left hemisphere, it will be much more useful to apply intersectional thinking, which is characterized by the following skills:

• Being able to create connections between information and stimuli that have nothing to do with each other.
• The person skilled in intersectional thinking is able to find calm in the midst of chaos.
• In the midst of this mental palace of peace and balance, the person who makes use of this focus of thought is able to connect with everything that surrounds him because he remains open, because he is receptive and curious, because he likes to “play” with everything. information that receives, testing, discarding, inventing and transforming …

Likewise, this type of profile is not obsessed with looking for a single solution, a single way out or an answer to their problems. Most of the time, he gets carried away by what happens in his environment and accepts the unexpected, the fortuitous …

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